By: Pastor Mike Sanders
Parenting is the hardest job in America. It is a job that requires 24/7 dedication, patience, and
unconditional love. It is also a job that comes with no instruction or training.
There are many different parenting styles, but three of the most common are authoritarian,
permissive, and conflict.
Authoritarian parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by high expectations and
strict rules. Authoritarian parents are demanding and controlling, often using unreasonable
punishments to discipline their children. The Bible teaches parents not to use their authority to
abuse or put down their children.
Permissive parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by low expectations and few
rules. Permissive parents are lenient and non-demanding and often avoid conflicts with their
children. Some once said, ‘Have you ever wondered why so many parents tie up their dog but let
their children run loose?’ —Anonymous.
Conflict parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by frequent conflict and power
struggles. Conflict parents are often frustrated and overwhelmed and may use harsh disciplinary
All three of these parenting styles can have negative consequences for children. Authoritarian
parenting can lead to low self-esteem and resentment among children. Permissive parenting can
lead to children who are impulsive and lack self-control. Conflict parenting can lead to children
who are aggressive and have difficulty forming relationships.
The best approach to parenting is intentional parenting. Taking the initiative to train children on
the path God designed them to walk. This parenting style is based on the Bible, love, respect, and
All children should be raised in a loving and supportive environment. I also believe that parents
have a moral obligation to raise their children to help them become holy and well-adjusted
Parenting is the hardest and most important job in America. Parents have a profound impact on
their children’s lives and play a vital role in shaping the future of society.
The following are some tips for parents who want to avoid the negative consequences of
authoritarian, permissive, and conflict parenting:
Be firm but fair with your children. Set clear expectations and rules, but be willing to listen to
your children’s input and make adjustments when necessary. Build trust with your child by
keeping promises and setting a godly example before them.
Use positive discipline techniques, such as praise and rewards, to encourage good behavior.
Avoid using extreme punishment, which can lead to resentment and defiance.
Build a strong relationship with your children. Show them that you love and accept them
unconditionally. This gives them a sense of security and self-worth.
Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting. The best parenting style works
best for both you and your children.